30 Days of Submission: Day 1

Yup, I am doing this finally. Had Dad look over the writing prompts and got his permission to do the exercise: 30 Days of Submission . The intention is to focus on aspects of D/s that people don’t really talk about or skip over. Things like how to build a trusting relationship, how to maintain a relationship, how to solve problems as a team when things go wrong, blah, blah, blah. Pretty much the boring stuff . Most of my answers are going to be devoid of sex and or any other titillating material for that matter. If you are still interested, please read on. 

Day 1: Do you view your submission as; Taken in Hand, domestic discipline, top/bottom, dominant/submissive, master/slave, owner/pet, DD/lg; or some other description or combination? If you do not use a label, why?

To neatly fit my submission into one category is akin to forcing a 3-D puzzle piece into a 2 dimensional puzzle board. However, the relationship between Dad and I is at its core father and daughter. It’s a platonic D/s relationship, therefore I’ve been avoiding the use of DD/lg and Daddy on my posts as that tend to have a sexual connotation amongst people in the community. 

While centered around the core Father/daughter relationship, my submission is best described as a sliding scale between minimal need to submit to total need for submission. It really is dependent upon my emotions, stress, anxiety, and physical condition. Last year I needed a short leash from Dad. I needed to give up all of my control so I could focus on task at hand. The short leash is not going to go away anytime soon as this year I will have a lot of moving components and unknowns to keep me on my toes. This does not mean that my submission is based on my whims. My submission and Dad’s dominance ebbs and flows. Really depends on where life takes us.

In general, I am a people pleaser. My office manager from previous work had described me as a happy go lucky Labrador retriever. I suppose in a veterinary field, it’s a good descriptor. The root of my submission is my need to please. I like to do everything in my power to make people happy around me. However, I do experience burnout when people fail to see and acknowledge my effort. When Dad came into my life, he saw everything down the the core of who I am. There is no place to hide my thoughts and there is no need to hide them from him. I can shed my masks and just be me around Dad. Which leads me to my final thought on the topic. 

Dad has never asked me to do anything for his own personal gain. His priority has always been my well being. As his daughter and submissive, I do see a lot of needs in his life that he at times neglects. So in an unsubmissive fashion, I tend to nag and hag him so that he can take care of himself while I am not around. I do suppose that I can be more polite about it…but when dealing with a curmudgeon like Dad, I need to be a bit firm at times. I don’t really see that as topping from bottom, it’s what Dad needs and I am going to see that his needs are met so that he can take better care of people around him and the cycle repeats itself. 

I will emphasize this again and again, D/s relationship or any relationship for that matter is a two way street. One can’t always give and the other always take. It should be a symbiotic relationship where both partner wins and builds upon each other. To paraphrase Dad’s words, it’s not the perfect position or tie that makes a D/s relationship strong. You need to trust and respect each other and communicate!

5 thoughts on “30 Days of Submission: Day 1

  1. The more to talk about him and I get insight to he is, the more and more I like your Dad. Trust, Honesty, Respect and Communication are the Four Pillars of BDSM. We can’t do anything without them.

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